After I saw the verdict in the news, I woke up in the middle of the night, my head pondering, “Are there other people losing sleep over this case, too?” ……
Why does this case disturb me so much, why did I wake up in the middle of the night? Because SA victims and perpetrators effect society on a visceral level—more than any other crime. Chillingly, the most unsuspecting women you know have been SA victims and sometimes, but not always, unsuspecting “gentlemen” you know have been SA perpetrators to various degrees. There are no winners. I wish I could just tell men to keep their junk in their pants until they get married but I like to substantiate my proclamations with more analysis (see in subsequent paragraphs). Plus, among the powerful and priviledged, this case should have never seen the light of day. The fact that it went to trial and that there was a 30year conviction is unprecedented in rape cases.
According to research, 1 in 5 women have been sexually assaulted. This should scare the living daylights out of men right now—a lot of you guys have skeletons in your closet, although maybe not as brazen as Danny’s, but adjacent to it. Whether you did something as agregious as Danny or were on the periphery (the murky area between consent and rape)—you should be disturbed. You should blush, you should—and I’m going anti-Brene Brown right here—feel some damn SHAME. Heck, let’s get puritanical and go for the jugular of the issue: the majority of 21st century men and women right now should be disturbed just by having a cavalier attitude towards sex in general, stemming from the 1960’s Free Love Movement that gave people carte blanche to have sex outside of marriage. Look around you—LOOK what all of that attitude, that heart postering, has devolved into—so many scandals in varying degrees from minimal to criminal! Am I wrong?? Great if your hands are clean—but that doesn’t give you license to go watch porn, either, which has no doubt influenced SA perpetrators.
If you are a loved one in the circle of Danny and his crazy *church*—perhaps hiding, aiding and abetting his actions or completely oblivious to him and just saw him as this young Mr Rodgers do gooder)—YOU, too should also be disturbed. Lies compound followed by a brazenness to do more criminal acts—that is Danny’s story and that’s how one woman’s life and spirit, one after another and another and another was corroded. Here are aspects of the case that I’m reflecting on right now…
PERFECT STORM: The statute of limitations and multiple Jane Doe’s coming forward
It might have taken 20 years, which most by this time would think time would be running out and weakening the case of the victims, but a lot more was at play. Interestingly, this could not have gone to trial it were not for ALL 3 victims coming together 20 years later—10 years past the normal statute of limitations! There is an ecxeption in the California judicial system that allows for the statute of limitations to not apply anymore when prosecuting a case IF it’s multiple people coming forward, thus bolstering the justification to take the case to trial. Furthormore, if it were not for Danny’s brazen attitude to not even apologize with one often Jane Does several years ago when she gave him the chance to do, that could have shifted the course of events that we see today with all 3 of them coming together to finally put Danny in his place. All she wanted was an apology was so pompous to think he would scoff at that and be let off the hook—because time heals all wounds, right ladies? nah, not sexual wounds, they’re on a whole different class catergory….
THE SCIENTOLOGY BRIGADE ENABLING DANNY FOR YEARS
I’ve seen the case against Danny woven in and and out of the news cycle for years now, but only after hearing of his 30 year sentence this week did the case really hit my psyche for blind justice when it has the opportunity to bloom—in this case it took 20 years. It took 20 years of push back against a multi-billion MLM corporation called the Church of Scientology. Obviousy calling itself a “church” is sacrilegious—it has nothing to do with church and only lining the pockets of David Miscavidge and his elite minions around him.Why else would I call it an MLM? Well, when you have membership of only 45,000 tops worldwide (last I checked) it’s no wonder all the people at the top are raking in fruits of slave labor put in at the bottom by those blue color Scientologists living and working in the Sea Org and only being paid $46/week.
I hope “church” of Scientology—the most annoying and fantastically fabricated “religion” (especially with there 5oc3 tax exmption) in the world (morman is a close second) gets taken down. Last I heard there were 45 thousand members worldwide—that doesn’t compute for a machine that has generated over a billion dollars in revenue over the years. Well, not when your one of their Sea Org members (aka slave laborerz). Those sorry saps get a measly $46/week in pay for their labor and a lot of them begin as children. I believe the only reason Tom Cruse and Joh. Travolta, amoinf other famous scientoloigiests, have not left is because one can’t just leave—they have to escape and if you even escape they have dirt on you now. Blackmail is a currency we often don’t think about. They have dissected your life. I personally don’t even believe the media reports that Tom Cruise is best friends with head of Scientology David Miscavidge—they are frenemies
What is so insidious is that Danny, either consciously or subconsciously chose women in his church organization—an organization that disparaged its members from ratting each other out to the police.
SEXUAL SIN vs SEXUAL CRIME and gaining a healthier fear around sexual ethics in general
As I sorted out the tension I felt about this case, my emphathetic nature extended toward both the victims and the pereptutrator Danny for what he is about to endure in the Californian Prison system (they ain’t kind to white boys) that should put a healthy fear in EVERYBODY on the nature of sexual sin, the severity of how far it can go and the repercussions on society. For instance, we all know there are sins and then there are sins that are flat out crimes. Why do we scoff at the latter but still refuse to work on the latter for our own sake—removing the speck in out own eye? Yea it’s not as big of a speck but it’s a still a speck—a speck that can morph. So the question I posit is this: Men, what is the status of your sexual proclivities right now? People love so many of you during the light of day—but whatcha doing in the dark, behind people’s back? You could be an alpha in the light but if you are watching porn you are actually a gamma beta—you are essentially what you do in the dark. You are not living with sexual integrity, a moral compass based on self control over instant gratification thats bow down to your vices. YOU are aiding and abetting the bread and circuses. When are YOU going to be set apart? Think you’re preparing for a healthy marriage and children by viewing porn? It’s the antithesis of any stability and self control in a man’s life who want to commit to one woman.
The internet has become the Roman Cholossseum for everybody to give their thumbs and thumbs down depending on who should be praised or frowned upon that day. Meanwhile you’ll go back to your iPhone or computer and passively take in cheap dopamine hits that short circuit your brain. Porn is not illegal but it should be—it damn well is a sin though. It damn well not helping the men out in this country. Some become unsatiated by it, they need to graduate onto darker and darker things. Sometimes our sexual sin leads to crimes, other times it just destroys their personal relationships because they have so much baggage behind us or porn has warped our minds. Danny’s case highlights the nature of sexual sin on a whole and it’s rampant in this country.
Why is it more potent—stays with us more than any other sin? You are forever connected to that person. Ancient psychology and wisdom is nevermore found than in the Bible regarding the caveats of sexual sin versus other sins:
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
It’s hard enough dealing with your spouse or boyfriend trail of women they left behind before they got together with you. That’s rough. It’s the subconcious feeling of being compared to his past liasons—regardless of if he loves you more. The soul ties still abound in premarital sex—it’s a pure selfish act. And might I say 95% of the is country is guilty of such acts—yep, American adults are all selfish shameless whores (save for the single digit percentage of virgins) in need of an overhaul and reinstating sexual mores. Yet, what's even more rough is sexual criminal acts you know them for. That had to have eaten away at Bijou. I think she knows—she always knew. But when you are one to go through so much trauma in your own family you are almost primed to get sucked into th web of someone else’s. I think that’s one of the reasons why she became so tethered to Danny. Just my opinion.
It’s interesting that so often in our lives that we look to the friends and family to vet a new friend, business partner or romantic candidate. “Why get outsider opinons—choose the peple that know him or her” we hear. We always assume that people wear the mask in public and take it off for their people to see in private, right? Well, do we ever think about how it could be true the other way around in certain situations? Judging the character of someone could be a matter of what the public says about them—not what their close cohorts say. They could be grimey in the public view while holding a boy scount gold badge amongst their immediate family and close peers. Such is the current case with Danny Masterson—the public sees him for the nefarious man he is while his close family and friends still stand resolute, vouching for his exemplarary character and good deeds among them. Philosopher Kate Manne has called this phenomenon “himpathy.”*** As American actor Christina Ricci stated, “People we know as ‘awesome guys’ can be predators and abusers. It’s tough to accept but we have to. If we say we support victims — women, children, men, boys — then we must be able to take this stance.”
Perhaps they are all in denile but remaining loyal while they plead with the justice system to pardon and negate his transgressions from his early 20s. Sometimes it’s the people closest to us who are the most fooled, not the people standing afar. The public sees Danny for who he is while, ironically, his closest people will be the last ones standing.
THE CALIFORNIA PRISON SYSTEM IS ALMOST THIRD WORLD
Ok, maybe not third world but, compared to the backdrop of California glamour, Hollywood and Disney Land that this namesake is known for, I think very few people know about this state’s prison system. Heck, has anyone watched what goes on in one of the biggest for-profit industries in America right now—the penal system? I think every teenage young man in Amercia needs to be aware of the daunting legal system they exist in. Charges can and will be brought against you with enough evidence and SA perpetrators are not treated well in the system. I just learned this year, after getting to know a man who was in prison for a decade on drug trafficking, that there are more drugs running through the prison system than on the outside—chew on that for a bit. Just watch this Growing Up Scientology interview wth former convict Tommy Scolville explaining the daily hell Danny is going to have to endure.
Some people exist in prison in a passive state, but that’s rare—you always need to be on guard because the correctional officers are not “correcting” everything that goes on if you know what I mean. On the other spectrum, the people that will be on the run the most is the SA perpetrators—they are literally the scum in the prison hierarchy. Danny is going to be “paying rent” says Scoville, using prison slang and euphemisms to exclaim the dark streetwise culture of prison for which he spent 13 years of his life. Here is one phrase that he kept reiterating that sent chills up my spine for any human being having to endure the prison system for that long in those conditions: “Danny will be considered an NC among the prison population. That means he’s got nothing coming.” As in, don’t wait for anyone to help you because they ain’t…
NO WOMEN WINNERS
I feel empathy for Bijou—she’s been through a lot of trauma in her life—this is one big add on. 7 years of dating him—you think she didn’t know stuff then? Perhaps she has gone through so much with her own family she didn’t mind being melded into his web of deceit. I think she turned a blind eye and thought all of that stuff was behind them when they went on to marry. I feel sorry for the Jane Doe victims and more to come forward—I’m sure there is this dichotomy of a cathartic release in finally seeking justice after so may years yet a tension to go back in time to relive when they were compromised/incopocitated at the hands of him. And lastly, his mom Carol—he was apparently the “golden boy” in her eyes. Sounds like he had a great relationship with her—but did it go too far as to enable him, to embolden him to do these acts of evil? I think we need to revaluate the notion of “great mother-son” relationships in this country because, as much as I heard my mother tell me growing up that the best indicator of a good man is whether he has a good relationship with his mother, there are caveats to that. We know narcissistic and psychopathic men abound who were not close with their moms growing up, but I think those same men could also come from a “great mother-son relationships” that stoked the egos of these boys so much that they thought they were invincible….and Danny was that for a long time, but today his invincibility was reigned in and shackled.
***Although I do not agree with her vapid inspiration for that which came from the Brett Kavanaugh case. That whole trial and Christine Lousy Ford was a sham that bitter feminists still use an an example of mysogony and men getting away with things—sit down y’all.